My children rejoice, the time for the new sermon has arrived!! Can I get an amen?!?! HALLELUJAH!!!
Today I come before you, my congregation to speak on a topic which has, unfortunately, invaded it's way into all aspects of society. It first started as a song, then an idea, then a way of life, then a goal, but always a lie!! It is the philosophy of Lucifer himself, handed down through the generations, and kept alive by the evil empire of romance films or so called "chick flicks"!!! It is the lie that All You Need Is Love!!!!
Modern youth are raised with the idea that all you need is love to make something work. That is the lie of all lies!!! Love, in and of itself, cannot make two people who are incompatible compatible!! Love does not put roofs over heads and food on the table!! Love does not end fights. It may keep them at bay temporarily, but it cannot end them! Don't believe me? Read on.
The divorce rate in the United States has reached a new high, with over 50% of marriages ending in it. While there are several causes for this phenomenon, one of the primary ones is this notion people have that all you need is love. They keep quoting that throughout crappy relationships thinking that somehow a crappy relationship won't turn into a crappy marriage. But where is the proof of all these "theories" that I have?
If you look at a large portion of divorces nationally, you will find that the seperated couple does, in fact, still love each other, sometimes very much. So if this statement of "love will conquer all" is true, then why is it that these couples got divorced? Why you ask? Because love is not all you need.
Don't misunderstand me, love is absolutely essential. Without love, it will fail, no question about it. But love cannot make a marriage work without all the other essential elements. One of the primary ones is complementary goals! Not necessarily the same goals, but goals that complement each other. For example, if one person in a relationship wants to stay home with the kinds while they're young, and another wants a spouse to stay at home, that is complementary goals. On the other hand, if one person wants kids, and the other one doesn't, that is not something that love can overcome, and those two people have no business getting married ever. Yet people do it, every day, and then wonder, 5 years down the road, why they're getting divorced!!! Strike you as odd? It should!! Yet they never figure it out when it should have been apparent from the beginning of the relationship!!!
So what can two people do to overcome these issues? How can they avoid being another divorce statistic? It is, ironically, one of the easiest things in the world. It's very simple, yet people screw it up all the time. They simply talk to each other! Not only that, but LISTEN when the other person talks, and PAY ATTENTION to what the other person says!! And if the other person expresses a desire out of life that doesn't coincide with what you want out of life, you two shouldn't be together. It'll end in one of the being bitter and resentful because they had to compromise too much.
So what can you take away from this sermon my children? What is the moral of this long ramble? It's very simple. If you're having second thoughts about a person, don't ignore those thoughts just because you love them. You two just might not be compatible. Think about it!!
In Nomine Patris, et Filii, et Spiritus Sancti. Amen.
Original Comments:
you know what...i agree with you! I mean yeah i'm i loved someone with all my heart and he too said the same lol doesnt seem that way now lol but neway things happened and we still tell one another that we love each other but he has this "obligation" with someone else he calls it bc while we werent together well lol long story either way...if we both still love one another then the whole "love will conquer all" thing would put us together! nope lol either way i agree love isnt the only thing that brings and keeps two people together! Good Sermon brotha jimmy!
Posted by Anita Nicole on Sunday, September 17, 2006 - 10:10 PMDepends on your congregation, but over half may have dismissed you after your first statement.
"A man gets married and thinks his wife will never change; a woman gets married and thinks her man will."
Very good sermon Reverend and one that should be blasted over the airways in whatever way needed to reach deaf ears. I actually thought much about this very topic recently and implemented your proclamations. (That I did it before your sermon was read points to evidence of reality where time does not exist - as if I heard what you said before you said it.) A few weeks ago I had a really long conversation with a girl I have known for about three years. Over that time we grew close and I asked her out. The first time was a "no." After that I didn't ask her out, but just talked about going out. I really liked this girl, but we came to the conclusion through communication that we would never work out. Each of us was to the other person "too stubborn" in our beliefs and desires. I wish it could have worked out for their were so many things about this girl I liked, but the most important things were different between us.
I have often heard this certain wise man say (a priest who I assist at weddings) that "a marriage is not between two people, but between three persons - the third one being God."
God is Love. So this begs me to ask, if a husband and wife reject God, are they rejecting true love.Posted by Bert on Sunday, September 17, 2006 - 11:09 PM
Hey! I so agree with you on the love is not all you need. I was friends with a guy once for 10 years, in a relationship with him for 6 engaged 1 year. I love him very much. He was my best friend and high school love. We were the couple everyone hated because we complimented each other so well. But one day he became very bipolar and changed 180 degrees. In this situation all the years of love wouldn't change the person he had turned into. He didn't want to get help and I feared for my safty living with this new person. so, i called it quits. In alot of situations love is only a very thick string strung on the rope of a relationship. The string can always break at anytime over anything. All you can do is except its over. Cherish the time you did have love. Try to find the best parts you loved about love with an open mind and heart. Keep them in mind and move on with your life and be open to share yourself with someone new eventually. One day I hope to find that one in a million guy to put up with me. But I also learned its ok to be alone to. When that one in a million guy just walks into my life at first nobody knows who they might be untill you get to know them. Compare goals and everything in life you at that person might want or need out of or in life. Marrige is so over rated. Its a vision people think is pretty but get lost in only to get hurt unless they see clearly
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